What you should know about the subconscious mind before you begin healing.

Learning some fundamental principles about the mind can help you identify thought patterns, past conditioning and behaviours that may be negatively affecting your life experience, it can help you gain insight and awareness and can accelerate your healing journey.

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What is the inner child?

The inner child is the part of our mind that holds the emotions, memories, and experiences from early childhood.

It reflects how we felt, what we needed, and how we learned to cope with the world as a child. If a child experienced neglect, criticism, trauma, or abandonment, the inner child can carry unresolved pain, fear, and limiting beliefs into adulthood, influencing emotional responses, relationships, and even create self-sabotaging behaviors. When we heal the inner child, we release pain and emotional wounds, and create emotional freedom, authenticity, and inner joy.

The subconscious mind is always listening.

Every time you think, speak, or criticise yourself, your subconscious mind is paying attention. Make an effort to be mindful of your thoughts and words, your powerful subconscious mind believes these are commands directly from your conscious mind, the subconscious mind then proceeds to create your reality based on this information. The subconscious mind doesn't have the consciousness to know this is not what you want. It is given a command it then proceeds to execute it.

Remember, your subconscious mind is always listening!

The subconscious mind controls your body.

It has been proven that most ailments, sickness, and disease originate in the mind first.

The brain has the ability when overwhelmed, to store trauma, stress, and negative emotions in our body, but this is meant to be temporary, if we fail to resolve or release these issues, they may become trapped, our body may become overwhelmed,

potentially leading to inflammation, pain, illness, or disease.

​Have you ever encountered someone who constantly complains about their poor health and always seems to be unwell or dealing with some health problem? It's crucial to recognise that the subconscious mind's role is to turn your thoughts, words and beliefs into reality.

For instance, if you frequently complain about feeling old, the subconscious mind might manifest this by causing aches and pain in your body, affecting your eyesight, a heart condition etc.

Every thought creates a physiological reaction.

Consider a scenario where you are replaying a time in your mind when your boss criticised you and embarrassed you in front of your work colleagues. Each time you relive this moment mentally, your mind perceives it as happening again, triggering your body to react as it did initially. Possibly activating your fight-or-flight response, releasing cortisol, the stress

hormone, into your body, causing your heart to race and your blood pressure to rise.

Thoughts connected with a strong, negative emotional response leaves a mark on the subconscious mind, which also governs your bodily functions. Now, imagine replaying a negative memory hundreds of times in your head, think about the impact this has not only on your mind but also on your body.

Our inability to let go is affecting our health.

The subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between what is real and what is imagined.

Repetition is key, you can convince the subconscious mind you already possess the future you desire, or increase confidence, intelligence, happiness, or freedom from anxiety, etc, through visualisation, meditation, and hypnosis.

These are incredibly powerful tools for shaping your reality. If you can envision it, you can achieve it. When the subconscious mind believes you already have or feel a certain way; it will make changes to align you with this new reality.

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​Most negative beliefs are created in childhood.

Up to the age of 8 or 9, our brain waves are in theta, we learn quicker at this age than any other time in our lives, our minds are

open, a blank slate and we are very sensitive, and any beliefs formed in childhood tend to stay with us for life.

If a teacher called you stupid and as a child and you believed them, since children often believe and trust the adults in their 

lives, you may grow up thinking you're stupid. Remember the belief is created first, then the evidence appears. Eliminate the belief, and the evidence will disappear.

Can a belief make you act stupid? Yes, because the subconscious mind will drive you to act according to your beliefs. 

What negative beliefs have you brought forward from your childhood?

It takes approximately 30-60 days to create a new behavior or habit.

It typically takes about 30-60 days to change a habit and make the new behavior a permanent part of you and for the new behavior to become automatic. Each time you practice the new behavior the connection in the brain becomes stronger.

This timeframe can vary based on several factors, including:

Complexity of the Habit: Simpler habits may take less time to change compared to more complex ones.

Individual Differences: Personal motivation, willpower, and past experiences can influence how quickly a new habit is formed.

Consistency: Repetition and reinforcement of the new behavior can accelerate the habit changing process. Ultimately, patience, repetition and persistence are key in the process of creating a new habit.

You are not defined by your current state of mind.

I encountered a woman who informs me she has "White Coat Syndrome," a fear of doctors.

She was going into hospital for surgery and was terrified. I suggested she overcome her fear; she tells me I can't because

it has always been a part of me. I disagreed, explaining that it wasn't a part of her but a response to a traumatic event from

childhood. Together we discovered a memory, when she was young, while undergoing surgery, a nurse tried to put the gas mask on her, she panicked, and her nervous system went into overdrive activating her fight/flight mechanism.

They restrained her and forced the mask on her, this embedded the incident within her amygdala, the fear centre of her brain and her nervous system as something to fear and anything resembling this incident, triggers this fear, hospitals, ambulances,

the doctors' surgery even a medical drama on tv could activate this fear, sending her nervous system into overdrive.

That single incident led to a fear of doctors that had persisted for 50 years!

Any behavior, triggers, patterns or past conditioning you have learned can be unlearned.

What you focus on grows.

When we fixate on negative thoughts or limiting beliefs, the RAS (Reticular Activating System) a part of the brain that filters our sensory experiences, will align our reality to match those thoughts. For instance, someone who constantly fears failure will unconsciously notice situations, memories, and information that reinforce this fear. Over time, this cycle strengthens self-doubt, lowers confidence and creates patterns of self-sabotage.

But here’s the good news: the RAS isn’t biased. It can filter for positive experiences just as easily as negative ones. By choosing to direct our focus toward empowering thoughts, uplifting emotions, and positive possibilities, we train the RAS to highlight opportunities, solutions, and evidence that support success and growth.

Think of it similar to the algorithms on social media: if you stop to watch a video about how to make lasagna, suddenly your feed is filled with recipes, Italian restaurants in your area, holidays to Italy and cooking products. That system is modeled on how the RAS works: it simply feeds you more of what you give attention to.

Linda Mackey